1.a combination of qualities, such as shape, color, or form, that pleases the aesthetic senses, especially the sight.
“I was struck by her beauty”
2. a beautiful woman.
“she was considered a great beauty in her youth”
synonyms: beautiful woman, belle, vision, Venus, goddess, beauty queen, picture;
As a women, I do not believe it is cocky or bitchy to say out loud that I am beautiful. I believe that the more women tell themselves this they will build more confidence and self-love; which in turn will develop more acceptance and happiness within themselves and with others.
I know that I am not the first and I will not be the last woman who has struggled with coming to terms with her self-identity, or who has struggled with the definition of beauty. I grew up thinking that I was not pretty. I had naturally curly hair, dark skin tone, brown eyes. Nowadays, that might fit the bill for some, but growing up in a predominantly Caucasian state like Utah, I was not the norm. And there was no way I couldn turn to Hollywood for some guidance. To me it seemed like the late 80s, 90s was all about the blonde bombshell ( Pamela Anderson) and the skinny grunge look. It took a long time for me to learn to love the way that I look. Of course, I still have my insecurities and struggle probably more than most especially now that I have to deal with the alopecia and lupus. Nonetheless, my problem has always been the desired to be perfect.
It is surprising to me how working with eight grade students has inspired me. They inspire me by having self-confidence, breaking down different stereotypes, and labels. Many students are not afraid to be themselves. By witnessing this in the younger generation it pushes me to not be so hard on myself and to be more excepting.
I know that 30 years of pain is not going be erased overnight. However, as long as I continue to tell myself that I am beautiful and I am good enough my inner beauty will continue to prosper allowing my outer beauty to shine. One simple but powerful tool is to stop looking in the mirror and scrutinizing the things that I don’t like about myself, instead I try to focus on the things I admire. Below are some articles to help build confidence and tips on self-love.